If you have been deeply hurt or experienced a betrayal, you need to have what is called a ‘corrective experience’ to help you heal. I had a therapist tell me this and she was right.
I was wounded by the words of some teachers at a young age due to my dyslexia. Now I’m earning my Master’s degree with some very supportive professors and it is healing that ‘inner child’ wound. This does not in any way diminish the power of God. In fact, He brings us into corrective experiences to restore us since He wired us for relationship.
Often times, we struggle believing it is possible so we tell ourselves things like: “I’ll never date again” or, “I’ll never go back to church again.” Please do not limit God’s ability to bring you a corrective experience.
Let’s say you have been wounded by church leadership (most Christians have.) It may be a good idea to take a break for a season and seek counseling before going back. If you don’t, you risk replaying those hurtful scenarios with everyone or every situation you encounter at the new church.
Once you have experienced some healing, pray for God to bring you a corrective experience. He will, I promise. Often times the corrective experience (boss, job, pastor, spouse) will be far better than before, and you will know how to guard your heart thanks to the wisdom you have gleaned from the experience.
Don’t give up. Pray for God to bring you a corrective experience and keep pressing forward!
“He restores my soul; He guides me in the paths of righteousness For His name’s sake” (Psalm 23:3)