Why Do I Keep Losing Myself in Relationships? | Finding Your Way Out of Survival Mode with Amanda Hill
Why do so many of us keep repeating the same painful patterns?
Maybe you struggle to say no. Maybe you feel responsible for everyone else’s emotions. Maybe you constantly question yourself, walk on eggshells around certain people, or wonder why healthy relationships feel so…uncomfortable.
The truth is, these patterns don’t come out of nowhere.
In this conversation, licensed mental health counselor Amanda Hill joins me to unpack what happens when we spend years living in survival mode. We explore how childhood experiences, trauma, unhealthy attachment, and people-pleasing quietly shape our adult relationships—and why so many of us lose sight of who we really are along the way.
You’ll learn:
• Why emotional safety is the foundation of healing
• How to recognize unhealthy relationship patterns
• Why we often attract relationships that reinforce old wounds
• The difference between healthy boundaries and shutting people out
• How faith and counseling can work together instead of competing with one another
• Practical ways to stop surviving and begin living authentically
One of my favorite moments is when Amanda explains that healing doesn’t begin by fixing everyone around us—it begins when we slow down long enough to understand ourselves. We also talk about grieving the family we wish we had, learning to stop taking everything personally, and why you can’t want someone else’s healing more than they do.
If you’ve ever wondered, “Who am I beneath all these survival patterns?” this conversation is for you.
Guest: Amanda Hill, LMHC, NCC, BCC
🌐 Connections of Hope: https://connectionsofhope.com
📖 Book: Making Sense of Dysfunction: How to Heal, Take Control, and Move Forward (Available on Amazon)
🎙️ Podcast: Mental Health with Amanda
📧 Contact Amanda: Visit https://connectionsofhope.com for counseling services, podcast links, and contact information.
