“Fear of man will prove to be a snare, but whoever trusts in the LORD is kept safe” (Proverbs 29:25).

The fear of man has tripped me up in more ways than I can count. One of the biggest problems it’s caused me is a lot of confusion and difficulty in making decisions. When I get caught up in people pleasing, I have a very hard time hearing God’s voice because my mind is cluttered with everyone else’s opinion.

We’ve all heard the saying ‘too many cooks in the kitchen’, but then there are some cooks who shouldn’t be in the kitchen at all!

When I have too much confusion going on in my head, it usually means there’s too many opinions in play. And just like the extra cooks messing up the meal, there are some people, however well-meaning, whose opinions I’ve allowed to confuse me and drown out God’s voice.

It’s good to seek advice, and we’re told in scripture to seek godly counsel…. but too much of anything is well…just plain bad.

Take it from a recovering codependent who’s acted on the ‘advice of fools’ more than once. The best thing to do, in addition to praying for God’s will, is to pray that He would bring a few specific people (and a few does not mean 500) into your life who can speak wisdom, encouragement, and truth. And, if you’ll forgive me for being so blunt, that He would also give you the discernment to know who to tune out.

  1. Has listening to the advice of too many people caused problems for me? If so, how?
  1. Who do I have in my life I can trust to give me wise advice, encouragement, and direction?


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